Trust is very important in a relationship. Without trust, one can as well quit a relationship because there’s nothing to show that love exists in that relationship.
According to relationship experts, the key to building a lasting relationship is by communicating via asking questions. If well put together, these questions will bring up the character of the person on the receiving end, and show how open they are to taking criticism. The response you get from those questions will either shed light on their life and past, or tell you the type of person they are.
Elcrema has put together a number of questions we think you can ask your partner if you really want better understanding and trust in your relationship.
HOW CLOSE ARE YOU WITH YOUR FAMILY?
Had to put this first because family is important. Asking someone about their family and whether they’re close can build trust and emotional intimacy. Every family has some kind of dysfunctionality and opening up about it lets you know why your partner is the way they are and acts the way they do.
WHAT DO YOU FIND HARD TO TALK ABOUT WITH ME?
Many couples find it hard to talk about certain matters with each other. It is easier to find out what these matters are and why they are reluctant to talk them out with you. Their answer might be a bit judgemental for you, but you have to be accepting if you want to build total trust between the two of you.
WHAT ACCOMPLISHMENT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?
Revealing the one accomplishment that your partner is most proud of shows their ultimate goal in life. It is a way of asking what their main goal is — a question that they may not be able to be completely honest about since it may lead to other information.
WHAT’S YOUR TAKE ON OUR RELATIONSHIP?
Nobody likes being asked directly whether they love their partner and how much. The above question is a more casual approach of getting the answers you are looking for. You get to see how your partner feels about you and how they think your relationship is going without having to say any big words that they may not be ready to say just yet.
WHAT MEMORY OF YOURS IS THE WORST?
This question will bring intimacy the same way the question about your partner’s family will. People find it easy to talk about happy moments, but they refrain from thinking and talking about their sad moments. Opening up about them means opening a window to their heart and their past.
WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU CRIED ABOUT?
Crying is a very deep emotion that gets brought up by very unpleasant situations or feelings. It is a continuance of the previous question. Being able to talk about something painful means that you trust the person you are opening up to with your pain.
WHAT IS THE ONE THING YOU WOULD CHANGE ABOUT YOURSELF?
Depending on the answer you get to this question, you will see whether your partner recognizes the negative parts of themselves and whether they want to change them. If so, it means that they want you to know their disadvantages and help them change them.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU HAD ONLY 6 WEEKS TO LIVE?
This is a very deep hypothetical question that invites your partner to think about the things that matter the most to them. It will make them do some soul searching so that they’ll be able to share with you their ultimate goals and desires that were always there.
WHAT CONSTITUTES A PERFECT DAY FOR YOU?
Every person has different sources of joy, and with this question, you will know exactly what these sources are. It is important to know the wants and needs of your partner and for them to reveal them to you requires them to open a small part of their heart to you.
WHAT ARE THE 5 THINGS YOU ARE MOST THANKFUL FOR RIGHT NOW?
Being thankful for your life means that you appreciate the people and things around you and that you realise the importance of not taking what you have for granted. Hearing what your partner is thankful for shows you what they value the most in life and what they would like to keep on having in their lives.