How to start dating: Are you looking for a date but you don’t know how to go about it. It is easy to go out and meet new people but not easy to find someone to be in a relationship with. Knowing what you actually want in a partner at times could be hard.
Dating is a great way of spending lovely moments with someone, asking the person out casually. In this new age, dating sites and online apps helps people to find that special one, those who are similarly looking for a relationship.
Here are steps on how to start dating either for the first time or dating again after breakup.
- Know how to differentiate your ‘needs ‘and ‘wants’ in a relationship:
these two words, ‘needs’ and ‘wants’ are two different word in such that wants are limited whereas needs are limitless. Needs has values, ambitions or goals to achieve in life. Wants are physical attributes such as height of the person, weight, hair color, handsomeness etc. know the qualities you need in a partner, think about what you are looking to achieve in a relationship and visualize it.
- Work on yourself:
If you want to be in a healthy relationship, you have to work on yourself. Love yourself to know how to love the person. Love is selfless, in a relationship is not all about what you like or dislike. Learn to tolerate yourself before you can tolerate in a relationship. Be honest about your shortcomings. No one is perfect, as every individual has its own character they possess.
- Build a genuine relationship:
If you are just pretending to care, your date will pick up on it. No one will like to be manipulated, because it will backfire someday if you are not genuine.
Pay attention to your date, show interest in them if you truly care.
- Deal with your trust issue:
if you want to star dating, fear of being betrayed by the person you want to date, fear of being manipulated, fear of being let down by the person can make you not to find the perfect match in dating. Identify the source of your mistrust and build a fulfilling relationship.
- Develop an online profile:
building a social life gives you a chance to go out and mingle with new faces without being alone. It exposes you to many new people of different personalities that can assist you on how to find a date. Online dating apps or sites helps to reach out to people from different countries and solidifying connections.
- Ask someone out:
blind date or serious dating with someone is the way to find love in a relationship with different prospection. Flirting is an easy way to start dating. Show your interest by touching shoulder or brush something off from their clothes to attract his or her attention, teasing with him or her in a jokingly way or asking questions to find out more about them to know them better, to be sure of being in the right track of finding a good match. Keep it casual, to avoid being hurt. Don’t be in a hurry to profess your love till you are fully convinced it’s the right time to do so.
- Give out your contact info:
make the first move to give out your number before them and do not request in return to build confidence. Don’t always expect someone to give you number in return if the person is interested, he or she will reach you with your number and this shows there is mutual connection.
Be opening minded and communicates freely. He or she is not a mind reader to know your feelings or what you need. Feel free and comfortable to voice your mind out; express your desire and the bond between you two will become deeper and strong.
- Map out time and a place for the date:
If he or she is interested to be your date, schedule a time and a place to meet.
Give him or her one or two options to choose and best time to meet so that it will not look like you are forcing him or her, thinking you might have planned something bad.
Schedule for another date if the first outing went well, say that you will be in touch with your date and would love to see him or her again. If your date agrees, try and arrange for another date with 1-3 days interval. These build confidence and mutual connection.
Remember, if your dating didn’t work out well, do not feel bad, just take it that after all, you’ve known it’s not going to last forever and move on. Don’t worry too much because there is someone out there designed for you. Be patient and stay true to yourself. Sometimes first date probably does not last long, so take a good breathe and move on.